Wednesday, 12 December 2012

Magical

It's cold in London today. Not much cloud, and the sort of temperatures which make your feet freeze if you're standing around outside. Like I do most days at the gate of the nursery school, greeting children and parents on their way in.

I'm standing there, and I notice that all along the railings are spiders' webs which have frozen. They have an icy coating, like icing sugar that has been sieved on.

A little boy comes in whose life, I know, is hard for reasons I cannot share here, which are no-one's "fault". His father is carrying him, giving him a lot of gentle and silent reassurance. As he's up high, I point out the white spiders' webs. But he looks more anxious than anything else, and I think they are both humouring me a little by looking and waiting.



Ten minutes later, he comes back, holding his key person's hand. He is saying, loud and insistent, "spider...spider". His key person looks a little confused, but she is trusting him to take her to see something important. They stand at the railings and he points to the webs.

His key person tells me that he got upset and then angry when he was left in nursery this morning, but then shortly after he had got over that, he had got up, held her hand and insisted on taking her out. He had held onto something that was fascinating him, despite his upset, and he had wanted to share it with her once he felt calm enough.

It's common to call moments "magical". This was magical like I felt when reading the first Harry Potter book to my daughter, when I could sense her marvelling at the magic the children summoned up. This time it was being overcome by a child's sense of wonder, which had itself overcome so many other hard emotions in a hard life.





6 comments:

  1. Simply wonderful! Thanks for sharing Julian..

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  2. Thanks Laura, glad you liked the post.

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  3. I love these magical moments that can happen a thousand times a day if the adults are really listening to the children.

    I wonder how often these moments get overlooked due to the adults not tuning in, not understanding the importance of what the child is saying or doing?

    How many key persons would have actually gone outside with the child?

    Thankfully this child's key person did realise and the child was able to share this magical moment.

    What stood out to me was the fact that the child 'knew' that not only could he ask his key person but that he knew he would be listened to. Says a lot about the staff and the ethos in the nursery.

    Thank you for sharing

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    1. Hi Penny, I really agree with you about how easy it would be for the key person not really to listen or take on board that the child wanted to go out and show her something. It's noticing those details that really makes a difference.

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  4. I've cited this (slightly out of context) in a blog post about Christmas. I love the idea of the child wanting to share 'once he felt calm enough.'

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    1. Thanks for your comment, Nick, and for the link too. Your blog post is really touching.

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